Love, Always

Why I want to go out of business.


I was chatting with a colleague recently, and she asked me:

“What’s your big vision for your work? Your plan for the next 20 or 30 years?”

I took a moment to think — about my wonderful clients, my coaching practice, my blog, my books, my regular spot on local TV, and all the beautiful projects that are currently on my docket.

I took a moment to remember — about why I got into the field of emotional health, in the first place. (Initially, like so many, it was to heal myself.)

I took a moment to feel — my hopes + dreams about my work, some uncertainties about the future, all the emotions that fuel my growth, and my desire to learn to be my best.

I took a moment to breathe. In. And out.

And this is what I said:

“I want to live in a world where nobody needs a shrink or a life coach.”.

Because everybody has the tools that they need to manage their emotions — and change their lives for the better — already.”

My colleague said:

“So basically, you want to drive yourself out of business?”

And I said:


It may sound a bit cheeky. But I am not kidding.

I want YOU to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and say:

“I deserve unconditional love, now.”


“There are things in my life that I want to improve, now.”

And believe both statements, equally, now.

And have the tools that you need to make those improvements — while sustaining that love — always.

When that day arrives? For every human being on earth?

I will happily, gleefully, joyfully shut down my business, forever.

Until that blessed day … you can find me here on my brand-new website (which just re-launched, today!).

I created this new online home for me, for you and for thousands of people that I want to serve, but still haven’t met.

Because our work isn’t done … yet.

Love, always.

PS. There’s so much to explore on the new site. And I recommend starting … here.:)

PPS. Click here to read my article, just published in the Huffington Post — “Taking Care of an Elderly Parent — and Not Loving It? How to Turn Resentment Into Patience and Joy.”

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  1. Beautiful site, congrats. And please n-e-v-e-r go out of business. Love your work!

  2. Ooh, your site is like a breath of fresh air! Tough to love me when I lost it with my kid last nite. Thx for the reminder about unconditional love.

    • Pete, self-forgiveness is so healing. That doesn’t mean that how we behaved is ok — it means we curb self-anger, so we can focus on behavior change rather than self-condemnation.

  3. Great site. Excellent video with lovely music. I posted your wise words from one of your blog posts on my desktop: “No matter where we were born or where we live now, our true home is within.”

    • Hi AM: Yes, that quote is dear to my heart. Everything we yearn for outside of ourselves can be found within. As my great teacher often said: “Self-love gets us through life’s rough spots.”

      I plan to dig deep into Self-Love (‘what the heck is it really?’) in future posts and Life Guides.

  4. Wow, your new website is BEAUTIFUL. Love that video that shows “your world” – nice place to live!

    I learn so much from you – thank you.

    • Gertrude, glad you like, + that the site is helpful. Thanks for sharing.:)

  5. I don’t want you to go out of business!!! Love the new look of your website. Love all that you share in your weekly blogs.

    • Pam: So much love, thank you. As for no more biz … as I told Rachel (above) “’ll be closing up shop, when I turn umm … 100 maybe?:)”

  6. Wow! Your new website is so warm and inviting. It’s light, airy and has a delicate Hawaiian ambience.

    How nice to have a virtual office with such a tranquil, welcome-home atmosphere.

    I’m confident that this beautiful site will be home to many, who seek effective, practical tools. Your insightful, inspiring approach to helping others reflects your compassion and intelligence.