Love, Always

Forgiving the Person One Feels Most Hurt By.


“I never knew I could be hurt this deeply. What he did feels unforgivable.”

“I can’t believe she did this to me! I trusted her!”

“I can’t believe I’m still upset about this! Why can’t I just let it go, already?”

In my work in emotional health, I’ve seen heartache … and anger.

I’ve seen loss … and grief, including the mourning of the “end of innocence”… I’ve seen cynicism, bitterness and heavy grudges.

It doesn’t have to be this way.

No matter how hard one is hurting, and no matter what someone did, it is possible to forgive.


And completely.

But I know that might seem like overreach.

I know, because I’ve said this before … and resistance followed.

Resistance, along the lines of:

“You don’t understand. It’s not possible to forgive. I can’t even wrap my head around the concept.”

I do understand.

Sometimes, one’s experience with some people can be awful.

Even then, it can be possible to forgive.

Consider this story about a brave woman who survived the Holocaust and later started a small business in the United States.

A few years down the road, her business was set aflame by vandals, in the dead of night — people committing a crime against a woman they barely knew.

But this woman refused to be burdened by hatred and bitterness.

She carried on. Rebuilt her shop. Continued to serve. Continued to love.

Many years later, a reporter asked this woman,

“How did you manage to forgive those people who wronged you, time and time again?”

She said, simply:

“I did not forgive them … for them. I forgave them … for me.”

This woman understands the true power of forgiveness.

When one stops clinging to anger and bitterness, one set oneself free.

Forgiveness is one of the greatest gifts one can give to oneself … to the people one loves … to one’s community … and to the world.

Can one forgive? Yes, this can be possible.

And I feel so strongly about this, that I wrote a digital life guide on this subject. It’s called: The Life Guide On How To Forgive The One Who Hurt You Most Of All.

People deserve an unburdened life

A life that is light, joyful and free.