Love, Always

Not everyone is cheering for your success. Don’t stop. Keep loving. Keep going.

It was a gorgeous morning in paradise.

The sun was shining, the grass was vividly green, the sky was clear and dotted with pure white clouds.

It was later than usual for my morning run, but I didn’t want to skip it. Even though the midday heat was building, and even though the humidity was rising, I didn’t want to let that stop me. I knew how good I would feel once I’d completed my daily jog around the neighborhood. So… off I went.

I started making my way down the path, picked up my pace, and waved hello to a woman who was walking the opposite way.

“You’re going out for a run, now?” she asked with a deeply negative tone. Everything about her body language and her voice said, “It’s hot out and you are crazy.”

“Yes,” I said. “I like working up a sweat in the heat. It’s healthy.”

To which she replied, “What?”

So I said again, in a very cheery tone, “I like to work up a sweat in the heat. It’s good for me!”

She shot me a look of total disdain (her look said: “Ugh, so you are one of those annoying health freaks…”) and continued on her way without further comment.

For a few moments, I felt rattled. This woman didn’t know me, yet she felt a need to saturate me with negativity. For what? For having the “gall” to take my morning run? Why did my actions “offend” her so deeply?

I felt momentarily angry, annoyed, then sad. But by the time I’d completed my run, those negative feelings had lifted away. I felt clear.

“Not everyone is cheering for my success,” I realized, toweling off as I stepped back into my home. “And that’s OK. I don’t have to let other people’s negativity derail me. I can cheer for my own success, regardless.”

This is the tough reality of life.

You want to launch a business? Some will cheer. Others will not.

You want to homeschool your child, go vegan, sell your home and move into a house-boat, or apply for a creative writing fellowship? Some will commend you. Others will say, “You’re an idiot.”

No matter what kinds of choices you want to make, there will inevitably be certain people who don’t get it, who fear the changes you want to make, or who feel threatened by your level of ambition or success.

These people may keep their opinions to themselves (it’s always nice when that happens!). Other times, they may lash out at you. Unfortunate but true.

Try, as best you can, not to let their negativity derail you. Try not to lash back.

Stay true to your vision. Stay devoted to building the life that you want.

Remember that nobody — no matter how snarky or negative their behavior may be — can take your power away from you.

As Eleanor Roosevelt once said:

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

Not everyone is cheering for your success. Let that be alright.

Keep loving. Keep going. Don’t stop.

The greatest cheerleader you can have — in fact: the only one you truly need — already lives inside your heart.